Selective Vision

We don’t see things as they are; we see things as we are.  The way we observe life confirms our own ideas about how people and things are.

If someone irritates you, then you constantly see in their behaviour proof that they are, in fact, irritating. Thus you can blame them if, for example, the cooperation between you doesn’t go exactly as desired.

This selective observation may justifiably be termed ’self-deception’. You cheat, as it were, on yourself by going into tunnel vision. In a way, everyone does this because everyone observes his or her environment selectively.

We see imperfectly, or “through a glass darkly”. We seek to legitimize our opinion of ourselves and of others. The more you observe selectively, the more you are trying to score points for yourself instead of connecting with the other person.. Are you aware of what goes on outside the tunnel?