Getting Past Insecurity

Getting stuck in insecurity is more sickening than the certainty you did something wrong
Expressions about people’s strengths and weaknesses usually use the third person singular. They always go like: he is such and so, never you are such and so.

That is how it used to be in the closely-knit village communities of yore. All members knew what ‘they’ felt about any of them. Only the individual concerned probably didn’t. On the other hand, there probably was a broad basic acceptance. Any individual member just ‘belonged’, however objectionable his or her character.

We probably do not realise that for centuries direct feedback was hardly given at all. It is a mechanism which only came into use after the Second World War. Recently, new insights in the development of our competences have drastically altered our views on feedback. The old perspective, getting feedback, has shifted to becoming owner of your feedback.

Do not talk about, but with people

Don’t Worry about Criticism

Remember that unjust criticism is often a disguised compliment. The quickest way to correct the other fellow's attitude is to correct your own."  

“When you are kicked or criticized, remember that it is often done because it gives the kicker a feeling of importance. It often means that you are accomplishing something and are worthy of attention.” —Dale Carnegie

Do the very best you can.

“I do the very best I know how --- the very best I can; and I mean to keep on doing so until the end. If the end brings me out all right, then what is said against me won’t matter. If the end brings me out wrong, then ten angels saying I was right would make no difference.” —Abraham Lincoln

Analyze your own mistakes and criticize yourself.

Do not cling on to your dream, just do not let it go

Of course it is important to keep trying to realise your dreams, and optimism about your potential is a great help to attain goals.

Unbridled optimism, however, can also be dangerous if it leads to a stubborn march down a dead end.

The trick is to be flexible in your optimism.

This means that you will have:

1. The strength to change what can be changed,

2. The courage to accept what cannot be changed,

3. The wisdom to distinguish between 1. and 2.

AND

4. Never lose sight of the essence of your dream. What cannot be done now, may be possible at another moment in a different form.

Graduation Day May 14, 2011 Erskine Theological Seminary Due West, SC

The day has arrived and I am wondering what now? I feel as if I should be doing something else! Don't get it twisted I am happy that God has blessed me and my family to achieve this milestone. I feel that I need to do more! I am never satisfied with where I am at intelluctually so being a perfectionist and somewhat "OCD" I am already thinking about my enrollment in Waldon University to complete my Phd in Psychology. I received my acceptance enrollment letter and welcome packet several months ago. The class schedule is robust and challenging but nothing that I can't handel. So I want to discuss change in this posting as I write from Westminster, South Carolina as I prepare to have my doctorate conferred upon me at 4:00 pm.

"CHANGE"

When it comes to change, those involved can be divided into four categories:

The ones who welcome the changes with positive feelings
The ones who wait to see what happens without taking an active part in the process
The cynical ones who only give negative criticism
The ones who lose faith and see themselves as victims
Change will start to show positive outcomes when most people belong to the first category – otherwise the change is only superficial: a technical success but not yet integrated in the organization’s every-day life.

It is essential that the critical masses have been reached.

Change will start to show positive outcomes when most people belong to the first category – otherwise the change is only superficial: a technical success but not yet integrated in the organization’s every-day life.

It is essential that the critical masses have been reached.

Change will start to show positive outcomes when most people belong to the first category – otherwise the change is only superficial: a technical success but not yet integrated in the organization’s every-day life.

It is essential that the critical masses have been reached.

When Knowledge Becomes Power

Knowledge only becomes power once you’re capable of putting the theory into practice

Being powerful implies a mutuality of influence, both sides being able not only influence the other, but also having influence over how they are, in turn influenced.  That’s what they call “Interaction”!

In other words:

“Only in interaction does knowledge become visible and relevant.”

The same goes for talent, as well as other personal qualities.

Your cosy conviction that you are “a talented person” remains a fantasy until you put it into action.