Think With Your Heart And Feel With Your Head

When dealing with others it is important to integrate your feeling and thinking.
In other words, don’t just feel about your situation, but think about it too. Then you’ll be more ready to speak out calmly and act appropriately. A lot of unnecessary conflicts and problems are avoided if you follow this simple rule: feel and think first before you speak or do.

If you feel and then act without thinking you’re being impulsive or reactive and, more often then not, you’ll hurt yourself or someone else.  If you think and then act without feeling then you’re detaching and not dealing with something that you need to deal with.  But if you feel and think about something, put your heart and head together, then you’re in sync with yourself and giving your best.

The more your heart and mind are in communication and working together to support you the more effective you’ll be in your relationships.

If You Can’t Sstand The Heat, Get Out Of The Kitchen (Harry Truman)

Do you know Gordon Ramsay? He is a famous chef appearing in television shows like ‘Hell’s Kitchen’ and ‘Kitchen Nightmares’. His fame comes from screaming vulgarities at incompetent chefs.

Not the way of communication we promote. But if you strip away the obscenities from Ramsay’s language there is are some things to be appreciated, namely that Ramsay hates mediocrity.

He doesn’t want people to be average or dishes to be passable; he wants them to be great.

When he finally says:  ‘nice job’ this will be well-deserved. The people he has worked with have really changed.

The lesson here? If you are honest in your drive to make things don’t hesitate to state clearly what you think about the current situation.

But after that, like Gordon you have to get into the heat of the kitchen and work together to improve things.