The difference between a groove and grave is a question of depth.

Whether you’re in a groove or a grave depends on how easily you can get out of it.
Patterns and regular habits; we all have them.  Whether it’s the usual route home or the daily household chores, it’s just a more convenient way of getting things done. If we had to relearn peeling potatoes each time we did it, we’d never get around to learning new, more interesting skills.

But everyone has a few areas where they’ve simply got stuck, and this can cause trouble.  It’s easy to underestimate how ingrained such patterns can become as they were often developed way back in our earliest childhood.

The impact of this type of groove on your development can often become apparent during relationships. Staying “in the groove” can mean standing still.