Thinking Logically Might Not Be The Logical Thing To Do.

A lot of people tend to make a clear difference between emotions and reason. In a discussion, reasonable arguments are supposed to be important, while emotions wouldn’t take us any further.

However recent findings in neuroscience point out that there simply is no clear-cut difference between reason and emotion as regards the functioning of the brain. One cannot separate the one from the other.

A Map Will Tell You Everything You Need To Know, Except For How To Fold It Back Up.

The new navigation systems in cars have turned out to be extremely useful. However they do deprive us of the test of relationships that was done every holiday: map-reading.

It used to be like this: he drives, she reads the map.

This would happen:

After a couple of missed turns he wants to stop the car to read the map himself. This entails finding a spot to stop where it is possible to read the map peacefully – easier said than done. She suggests a spot like that might be marked on the map, which merely increases the level of his irritation.

She notices a small road to the left, but it was too late for him to slow down. He accuses her of not reacting soon enough, which increases her level of irritation.

However, the next junction turns out to lead to a cute French village with an extraordinary auberge with great cuisine and a free spot on the terrace … The two have truly survived an adventure and the relationship came out of it just fine.

Isn’t it a shame that we have to miss out on this nowadays?

If You Think You Can....

If you think you can do it, you’re right. If you think you can’t, you’re right.
Your power to convince yourself is enormous and unimaginable. You can make someone else experience this power by making him or her do the following exercise:

Ask your subject to stretch out his arms. Lightly press down on the upper side of the out-stretched hand, while he lightly pushes upwards. This way you can test the other’s natural power.

Make him tell himself at least ten times that he cannot resist your force, while repeating the action above.

Note his strength.

Now do the test again, but make the subject tell himself at least ten times that he definitely can resist! How strong is he now?

The results will surprise you!

You Will Always Remember Your Failures Much Longer Than Your Successes

Within our autobiographical memories there’s a special place reserved for embarrassing situations for which we ourselves are responsible. The kinds of situations which still make us blush when we recount them years later. Where looking back you still hope the ground will open and swallow you up!  Such as using the wrong name for someone, or asking after someone who’s long dead.

This sharp focus on negative memories has a function; it helps you to keep a healthy self-image, reminding us that we are fallible.

But it has its disadvantages too.  In moments of depression those painful experiences come bubbling up.

So next time you’re lying awake mulling over your weakness, remember that it’s a one-sided image of yourself, that unpleasant memories have been etched deeper in the brain, and programmed to reappear at such moments.  All the positive aspects of yourself have been wiped from the slate!

Building On Your Strengths

Why Build on Strengths?

It is our strengths that lead to true success in our careers, NOT our lack of weaknesses.
We all have unique strengths.
Strengths may come naturally to us, often from an early age.
Others tend to overlook our weaknesses if they respect our strengths.
In the absence of contradictory data, people will assume strengths: "She is VERY good in this area, therefore she must be good at everything else."
Strengths can create the Halo Effect, meaning that a positive perception is easily reinforced.
Remember, goal setting and action planning should first focus on strengths and then on those weaknesses that will impede success.