Getting Past Insecurity

Getting stuck in insecurity is more sickening than the certainty you did something wrong
Expressions about people’s strengths and weaknesses usually use the third person singular. They always go like: he is such and so, never you are such and so.

That is how it used to be in the closely-knit village communities of yore. All members knew what ‘they’ felt about any of them. Only the individual concerned probably didn’t. On the other hand, there probably was a broad basic acceptance. Any individual member just ‘belonged’, however objectionable his or her character.

We probably do not realise that for centuries direct feedback was hardly given at all. It is a mechanism which only came into use after the Second World War. Recently, new insights in the development of our competences have drastically altered our views on feedback. The old perspective, getting feedback, has shifted to becoming owner of your feedback.

Do not talk about, but with people